When Trying Harder Isn't Working

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This week at Crowd Church, Matt Edmundson shared honestly about hitting the wall - the kind where your expertise runs out, and your usual strategies stop delivering. Drawing from one of the most dramatic stories in the Gospels, he explored what happens when trying harder simply isn't the answer anymore, and why that might actually be the beginning of something better.

When Your Expertise Stops Working

There's a moment in Matthew's Gospel where professional fishermen - men who've worked the water since boyhood, who know every current and wind pattern - find themselves completely stuck. They've been rowing for nine hours through a storm. The crossing should have taken four, yet despite everything they know, they're going absolutely nowhere.

Matt pointed out the uncomfortable parallel: "These guys were professional fishermen...but right at this point, their expertise, their knowledge, their insider trading - all that sort of stuff is not making one little bit of difference."

Imagine the project manager who's delivered dozens of projects on time, now six months into one that keeps slipping despite every tool in the toolbox. Or the parent who's read all the books but still can't reach their teenager. And it's accompanied by that voice that whispers: "You should be able to handle this. You're the professional. What is wrong with you?”

Matt was honest about experiencing this himself: "2025 wasn't particularly an easy year. I felt like I was rowing in the storm, getting battered by different waves. Some mornings I found it really hard to get out of bed. When I did get up, I tried to stick to my morning routine - reading the Bible, doing a workout - but honestly, some days it felt like I was reading Chinese. The words just weren't going in."

The Boat That Keeps You Safe and Stuck

Here's where the story takes a bonkers turn. At three in the morning, Jesus appears walking on the water. The disciples are terrified - they think it's a ghost. And Peter, exhausted and bleeding, asks the most ridiculous question imaginable: Can I come out there with you?

Why would anyone leave the only thing keeping them afloat?

Matt suggested Peter understood something you can only grasp when you've completely exhausted your own competence: "The boat was safety, absolutely. But the boat was also the limitation. The boat was keeping him alive, but the boat was also keeping him stuck."

Peter wasn't asking for the storm to stop. He was asking to be with Jesus in the storm. To be with Jesus in the miraculous. And that's a very different request.

"When you've exhausted your competence," Matt explained, "you finally get to a place where you're open to something beyond your competence."

What Happens When Jesus Gets in the Boat

Jesus tells Peter to come. Peter walks on water - the same water that had been defeating him all night is now supernaturally holding his weight. Yes, he starts to sink when fear kicks in. Yes, Jesus has to catch him. But here's what often gets missed: Peter's failure in faith put him further ahead than all the disciples' success in self-reliance.

The disciples who stayed in the boat were still stuck, still rowing, still going nowhere. Peter was with Jesus.

Then comes the part of the story that really struck Matt: "Jesus doesn't stay walking on the water while they row behind him. He doesn't drag them to shore with a rope. He doesn't even teleport them to the other side. He gets into the boat - the very boat that had become their prison, the very boat where their expertise had exhausted itself. Jesus climbs into that. And the wind stops."

But notice what happens next. They're still only halfway across the lake. They still have to row to shore. The same boat, the same oars, the same tired disciples - but now Jesus is in it with them.

"Sometimes God's grace when he gets in the mess with you doesn't mean you stop working," Matt reflected. "Peter had to pick up that oar again. But somehow it probably didn't feel like defeat anymore."

The Difference That Changes Everything

This creates an important distinction: the difference between pointless exhaustion and purposeful struggle.

"Instead of rowing in circles, you're rowing towards something," Matt explained. "Jesus in the boat is about two things - mission and power. It's that faith that the struggle has purpose."

He noticed something else shifts too: "When Jesus gets into the boat, you feel like you can finally talk to the people rowing next to you. The shame lifts enough to say, 'You know what, I'm struggling.' Because if Jesus isn't disappointed in my failure - and Jesus can handle our failures a lot more than he can handle our disobedience - maybe I don't have to pretend I'm not failing anymore."

Matt was clear about what this isn't: "I'm not gonna stand here and promise you smooth sailing. I don't think that's what Jesus promised either. What he promises is his presence. 'I'm with you always, even to the end of the world.' I don't think Jesus ever said, 'I will make everything easy.' In fact, quite the opposite."

Conversation Street

"I saw myself in that boat"

Jan shared how vividly Matt's description landed: "I could smell the water. I could see the blood on Peter's hands. I was there - cold, wet, and miserable." But she admitted something that resonated with many watching: "I don't think I would ever have been the person to say, 'Can I come out?' I'd have been watching. And that makes me feel sad."

She reflected on how we often laugh at Peter's impulsiveness, but actually, he was brave: "He experienced something the others never did. How many times have I watched people do things amazingly well, and been in awe of them, thinking: why didn't I do it?"

This was their area of expertise

Dan highlighted something often overlooked: "Jesus took this opportunity with people where it was their expertise. They weren't amateurs. When they told this story later, they could say: 'We are fishermen. We knew what we were doing. This wasn't us being incompetent - this was a storm beyond our capability.'"

They still had to row

Jan, drawing from thirty years as a nurse and midwife, connected the timing: "The body is at its lowest ebb around three or four in the morning. That's when most people die. That was the hardest period on night shifts - you start getting cold, dreaming about your bed. And it would often be when real emergencies happened."

She was struck by the ending: "When Jesus got into the boat, the storm calmed - but they still had to row. After everything they'd been through, they still had to work. Jesus didn't miraculously get them to the other side." She remembered her own "storm nights" in nursing: "I still had to work. My shift wasn't over for another four hours. But the presence of God is with us in the midst of those horrendous times. We can't just give up. We've got to keep going."

Don't disqualify yourself

Matt added a challenge he didn't have time for in the main talk: "How many times do we say, 'When I get here, I will do this'? We disqualify ourselves from getting involved in the miraculous because we feel like we're not ready. But Peter wasn't ready. He was terrified and exhausted - and that's when he said, 'Let's have a go.'"

He continued: "You don't have to wait for all your ducks in a row to enter into some really interesting stuff with God. If that water was calm and there was no storm, it would not have been any easier for Peter to walk on it. We look at our circumstances and disqualify ourselves from the miraculous. Don't do that. Whatever storms you're going through, God can still do some mighty stuff through you. You're not disqualified."

A Different Kind of Progress

Matt shared where he's landed personally: "Maybe I'm still only halfway across the lake with the stuff we've been going through. I know I'm still tired. I'm still looking forward to a really good rest when we hit the shore. But it feels a lot easier now, and definitely a lot more hopeful."

The distinction matters: "Grace doesn't make you stop rowing. You still have to do that. But what grace does is add his ability to yours. The same work, the same skill, the same you - but in addition, you have his presence and his grace. Sometimes the wind stops when he gets into the boat. Sometimes it doesn't. But he is still there. And that's enough."

Your Next Step This Week

Here are some practical ways to apply this:

  1. Name where you're stuck - What's the area where your usual strategies have stopped working? Where do you feel like you're rowing and going nowhere?

  2. Invite Jesus into that specific boat - Not a general prayer, but a specific one: "Lord, would you get into this boat with me?" It might feel like nothing changes. Presence isn't always a feeling - sometimes it's a decision to not row alone.

  3. Stop rowing in silence - Reach out to someone else who's struggling. The shame lifts when you realise Jesus isn't disappointed in your failure.

  4. Don't wait to be ready - Whatever you feel God might be calling you to, whatever seems slightly bonkers given your current circumstances - consider that Peter stepped out at his most exhausted moment, not his most prepared.

  5. Distinguish between pointless and purposeful - You might still be rowing. But are you rowing in circles, or rowing towards something? Ask God to show you the mission in the struggle.

The Invitation

As Paul put it: "When you've done all you can to stand, stand." Or as Matt adapted it for this story: "When you've done all you can to row, row."

The disciples' expertise failed them that night. Nine hours of professional skill got them nowhere. But that failure created the conditions for something their expertise could never have delivered - walking on water, Jesus in the boat, and the knowledge that competence isn't the point.

Maybe your trying harder isn't working because it was never supposed to. Maybe the exhaustion of your own ability is the invitation to experience something beyond it.

The question isn't whether you'll face storms where your skills run out. The question is whether you'll let Jesus into the boat when they do.

 

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